I published a video the other week called: "My wife doesn't want to have sex anymore" since it is something I hear repeatedly from my male following (which is the majority).
But this time, a comment from a woman surprised me big time and brought back some memories.
And, to be fair, she's bloody right and how frustrating that must be!
Those are pretty much the exact words my auntie (who already passed away) told my mom many many years ago.
And my mom passed on to me when having a conversation about marriage and the poor and unhappy marriage my auntie had.
My auntie's story is one of those deserving a Netflix series, I tell you.
Extremely catholic, church regular attendant and if I could tell (I won't) all the things she went through and, more importantly, she made others go through!!!
I think the earth would tremble and dead corps would raise from the tombs.
I am not exaggerating.
She died in her 70s peacefully in her home. Her heart just stopped beating.
She was VERY alone.
She did not live an honest-with-herself life and never saw any light.
She lived in fear of going to hell and, since there is no one to go to (nor Heaven) she did not realise she was already living in it.
BUT...okay, that has nothing to do with the fact that she married a man who could not last 2 minutes in bed.
And that, the two children they had, were probably those two times he lasted two and a half minutes and the sperm could just about make it to the egg!😆
She was not a happy person, you could see in her face.
(I'll disregard the fact that my uncle was a very simple man with a huge trauma and that he used to go to the bar to have a drink and smoke behind her back (a family member saw him).
He wasn't happy either.
She had the masculine role in that household and, as an Aries out of control, she was quite the 'dictator' type.
He was not only also terrified of hell but of her!!
The perfect Saturday Night Sh*g
Now, family affairs aside, it is not always the case a wife does not want to have sex anymore because X or Z, right?
The question is...you, as a man, are up to the minimum standards?
How do you treat your woman in bed?
How do you initiate?
Do you build up to it?
Do you know what she likes and how?
Do you talk about sex with her?
So many questions!!
As always, feel free to reply to those questions if you fancy.
Greg did so a couple of weeks ago and, honestly, ...wow...😲
I did not know people in their 80s still have an active sexual life (honest to God).
I would think you're kind of over it at that point and simply not interested.
I am wrong.
My only family experience (there she goes again) is that of my great grandparents that I tell in this video. And it is not pretty.
I think that sexual relationships need to have physical attraction as the first ingredient.
Many people won’t agree on this, I know.
Having sex with somebody and not being attracted physically it's like having a non-alcoholic beer or, even worse, like having a paella without rice 🤣
Jokes aside...I cannot picture that myself.
So yeah...shocking to me and food for thought as, I hope, to make it to 110...minimum.
Anyway, back to the beginning... if you are a woman reading this (quite unlikely at this early point) please feel free to get back to me with this:
How do you like your man in bed?
What would be the perfect intercourse?
I am myself having a meeting with my team of experts (lol, my best friends who are middle aged women like me) and coming with a cocktail of ideas (and maybe a few cocktails too) so I can make a video to teach you all motherf**~@
(I hope you get my sense of humour at this point and don't get offended, plus, if you are offended, it's on you my friend).
Let me put on my…
"I am a woman after all" hat
Like my auntie, very regrettably, my dominant energy is masculine too🫤
Why regrettably? I'll talk about that in my memoir which will be more intimate.
So, in order to be more feminine and Ying… I need that hat.
I hope you look forward to the video but, just as 'aperitivo'...
Just a snippet…
Whaaaattt??? You cannot last 2 minutes??!!!
For the love of Jesus, Mary and the almighty Spirit!
Are you joking me???
Women need 20 minutes to get to the point of penetration!!
Yes, yes.. quickies are a thing too and, if you are not the desert down there (issues aside) it is ok occasionally to just stick it in like in a porn movie, why not?
But we are not talking about quickies, we are talking about a Saturday night regular shaggy shag.
So stay tuned for the "How to treat a woman in bed" coming up (depending on how many cocktails we have and the responses from women in this Letter, it could be promising...)
Enjoy this weekend and remember to laugh a lot.
Yes, as if you’re crazy.
The less you care about what others think, the happiER you’ll become.
Love,
Rose 🌹